How can your children
succeed unless they see you
succeed? You should be
raising great children as you build a great marriage. We're going to talk about principles, very
simple principles, that are very profound.
I promise if you do these principles,
because everybody can do it, these principles will cause you to succeed.
When couples do not succeed in
being married successfully and raising
great kids, it's because somewhere along the line, these principles were forsaken.
So principle number
one of the –marriage precedes children
in priority. Now, I know that you
believe that, but let me tell you about something that's real common. Again,
this is innocent and it's right in some ways, but sometimes you'll hear people
say nothing is as important to me as my children. There are two things
more important than your children. First
is God and the second is your marriage. So as a happy person, because I know
God, and then because of being a happy man because I have a great marriage, I'm
ready to be parent ( raising children).
I'm not overly needy. I've got my needs met. I've got my
priorities right. And my children's security comes from that. When your
children see you happy, they're happy. When your children see you secure,
they're secure. Research finds--you
know, children internalize issues--and
research finds that if parents are fighting and never say anything, children can pick up on the tension in their relationship and they
will internalize that and begin to get sick.
Even if you're not fighting in front of them. If you're not happy in
your relationship, if you're struggling
in your relationship, and I'm talking about long-term, because we all have
issues from time to time. But if you're struggling in a relationship, you
cannot be secure. And your children's security comes from you being secure. You
can't be secure in your children, you're secure from God and then your
marriage. Especially God. and so God comes before children. And marriage
comes before children, and then our
children. They are precious and they
deserve the best from us. So to follow
principle number one, you have be in a secure, stable relationship ( raising children).
This is Adam Norman, a 30-year-old father and a journalist. I consider being a father as my full-time duty, which comes before my actual job of journalism. As a father, there will always be new challenges for me to face everyday while raising my kids. This is where the idea of this website came from. I wanted to give out my experience, along with the experience of others, to all parents out there who need an advice with raising their kids.
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