How can your children succeed unless they see you succeed? You should be raising great children as you build a great marriage. We're going to talk about principles, very simple principles, that are very profound. I promise if you do these principles, because everybody can do it, these principles will cause you to succeed. When couples do not succeed in being married successfully and raising great kids, it's because somewhere along the line, these principles were forsaken.
So principle number one of the –marriage precedes children in priority. Now, I know that you believe that, but let me tell you about something that's real common. Again, this is innocent and it's right in some ways, but sometimes you'll hear people say nothing is as important to me as my children. There are two things more important than your children. First is God and the second is your marriage. So as a happy person, because I know God, and then because of being a happy man because I have a great marriage, I'm ready to be parent ( raising children).
I'm not overly needy. I've got my needs met. I've got my priorities right. And my children's security comes from that. When your children see you happy, they're happy. When your children see you secure, they're secure. Research finds--you know, children internalize issues--and research finds that if parents are fighting and never say anything, children can pick up on the tension in their relationship and they will internalize that and begin to get sick. Even if you're not fighting in front of them. If you're not happy in your relationship, if you're struggling in your relationship, and I'm talking about long-term, because we all have issues from time to time. But if you're struggling in a relationship, you cannot be secure. And your children's security comes from you being secure. You can't be secure in your children, you're secure from God and then your marriage. Especially God. and so God comes before children. And marriage comes before children, and then our children. They are precious and they deserve the best from us. So to follow principle number one, you have be in a secure, stable relationship ( raising children).